Valentine’s Day is coming up and you might be thinking of all the different ways that you can show your love to your significant other. This is great of course, but when is the last time you have practiced some self-love?
Too often we make excuses for not taking care of ourselves first. Maybe you think it sounds selfish to do that, but here me out on this one….you are not selfish for taking care of yourself first! I mean how are you supposed to take care of everyone else if your glass isn’t full? You have to fill your cup up and let it overflow to your loved ones. This IS NOT being selfish…I repeat THIS IS NOT BEING SELFISH! You want to be your best self not only for you, but also for your loved ones. So, this Valentine’s Day give yourself permission to devout some time to practice some self-love. Not sure just how to do that?
Here are 5 things you can try:
1.Treat yourself to a professional massage
A massage from your significant other is always nice, but it is truly a treat whenever you are able to actually go to a spa and have a massage professionally done. There are no feelings of guilt about having to give your significant other a massage after you get one from them and you get some quiet time to relax before and after your massage (this depends on the spa you go to, but typically this is how it works).
This is one of my ABSOLUTE favorite treats that I like to do every once in a while! If you are having a hard time justifying paying the money for a massage, you can always look on Groupon for some amazing discounts at your local spas.
2. Allow yourself 1 hour of alone time to do what you want
Whether you have kids or not, there is a way to find time to spend doing what you love. You might have to get up earlier or wait until the kids go to bed or have your spouse watch the kids, but either way make the time for yourself. This is so important to do! Everyone needs a little alone time to collect their thoughts and clear their minds. Whether you like to go for a run, read, write, or just sit and relax at home; take some time to yourself every once in a while. YOU DESERVE IT!
3. Write down 10 things you love about yourself
This goes back to our topic of self-sabotage that we covered last week. Many times we are talking negatively to ourselves throughout the day and I bet the majority of us don’t even realize when we are doing it.For a lot of us, it has become such a normal thing that we don’t even catch ourselves doing it anymore. Work to reverse those negative thoughts by writing down 10 things that you love about yourself. This can be something you do one time and then go back to review every week or as often as you need to. Or you might prefer to make a new list every week. Whichever you prefer, start focusing on the things you love about yourself and I bet you will find yourself feeling much happier.
4.Take 5 minutes to envision your best self
Maybe you dream of being able to ride bicycles with your husband one day or you see yourself running around and playing with your grandchildren. Maybe you want to be more patient. Take the time envision you as your best self. If you take longer than 5 minutes, who cares? Keep going as long as you want. Allow yourself to DREAM BIG! After you finish your list, hang it up somewhere that you can see every day so you can keep reminding yourself of who you want to be.
5. Come up with a daily mantra that empowers you
“I am a strong, confident, beautiful woman.” It sounds corny, but this is my mantra that I’ve had for several years. I don’t say it to myself every day necessarily, but there are times when I have needed to say this to myself. Those are my top 3 things that I personally struggle with and beat myself up about so that is why I picked this mantra. I was tired of getting walked all over by other people, tired of not being confident in my own abilities and tired of feeling like I’m not beautiful just because I don’t look a certain way. Having a mantra like this can help snap you back into a positive mindset when you are having a tough day.
These are just some of the many ways that you can practice self-love. I chose these because they are things that I have done and that have seemed to work for me. However, this does not necessarily mean that they will work for you. You may have to try many different forms of self-love before you find out what works for you.
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Health and happiness,
Alicia Williamson RN, BSN, MSNW, CHC
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